Was the thing that popped-up in my mind last night when I was walking down the street alone. It is kind of weird that there was no cab passed by the street last night and how dark and quiet it was. I actually didn’t know what I have to do except crankily walk down. It was 1 a.m, I was afraid, tired and brought lots of stuffs with me and I had to walk this far.
But thanks to last night that finally I thought, “If only I have another option but not to walk. But I don’t”.
I stopped for a moment and thought again, “I have no option and I keep walking. What if I give up? I would just stay here without knowing when will the cab pass. I would probably stood here alone waiting for something that’s not even certain. I don’t know what would happen if I stay and give up walking but if I walk at least I know I walk to the right direction.”
Sometimes, we think that we have no other option but life always provides us with options. And one of the common options is: “to give up” or “not to give up”. Unconsciously, some of us (or maybe most of us) choose “to give up”. And as matter a fact, we don’t even know which option is “to give up” and which one is “not to give up”.
In my simple case for example, I didn’t know what option lead me to “give up”. Did I give up when I finally decided to walk? (means I decided to give up waiting) Or, did I give up if I decided to wait for the cab? (means I decided to give up walking).
“To give up” and “Not to give up” is such a blurry choice. It actually depends on what is exactly our destination? What is actually our goal? If you choose something that seems like giving up but conversely, it leads you to your destination, then you are not giving up.
My simple case for example, my destination is to get on bed as fast as I can and cuddling up with my sister. If I decided to wait for the cab maybe my sister would already sleep and I wouldn’t be hugged in my sleep when I get there. But I decided to walk and get there faster so my sister was still awake and she could hug me until I slept. Seems like I was giving up waiting the cab but it leads my to my destination. I didn’t give up.
I’m sure you know that once you choose “not to give up” it might not smooth. Obstacles are there, tiresome is your consequence, but knowing you will reach your destiny, isn’t that wonderful?
As a human, I can’t deny that choosing “to give up” is one of the easiest thing to do. But I learned if I choose “to give up” I will just go nowhere, not even closer to my destination, and got no strength to go back to start and anyway we don’t have that “rewind” button in our life so how could we go back to start again? Then the only option is “to move on”. And “to move on” is not giving up. It is walking on different street to reach a better destination.
Before I join my company I am now in, I was an announcer in a top radio station in town but for one and other things I must leave the radio and work in a company. It wasn’t an easy option: “to give up” the thing I love to do (radio) or “not to give up”? I finally decided to leave the radio. Did I give up? No, I didn’t. I didn’t easily give up and act like I don’t like radio at all. But I nourished my goal. I love radio so much! But I don’t want to be an announcer for the rest of my life. I want to pursue a great career, saving money and build my own radio. It might seems that I gave up what I love, but as matter a fact I wasn’t not giving up what I love, I try to move on from my comfort zone and pursuing a bigger thing.
Do you know what that means? “To give up” is never been the final option. “To give up” is not permanent. Because we are human, this is life. Life goes on, human will die someday. And no one, not even an elder, want to stuck in something that is not certain. By not giving up, we are pursuing something we believe we could reach. Simply, if you work on something to pursue your goal, you are not in a state of giving up. You might giving up your comfort zone, you might be tired, you might need a break, but you don’t need to give up.